In today’s social climate you are offered a full menu of relationship choices. Before jumping in with both feet, I suggest you get clear with yourself and your higher power, God-The Source, first. What is in your heart?
Are you looking for a friend with benefits, a lifelong partner, someone who wants multiple partners or in a relationship that needs some spice? The question is the same. The answer often is not sexual exploration but healing what is wrong in your life and in the relationship first. Then make decisions.
As an example, the flavors in a Gelato Store all look delicious until you’ve tasted them. That’s your first hint! You can ask for a teaspoon full but you may still put something yucky in your mouth. This is easier with gelato, or a piece of nasty candy. Not so when dating, in a new relationship or dealing with the boredom of longevity.
You need to know what you desire for your life. It is also good to know what your partner is looking for.
When dating, the chemistry can be high. It’s difficult to say let’s get to know each other. Do you like to hike? Let’s talk and see what we have in common. Impromptu passionate decisions can lead to lifelong consequences.
When in a marriage/relationship with many years behind you, variety of any kind can look exciting. Are you ready to open pandoras box? Without wisdom in your decisions, you could destroy what you think is a solid marriage or relationship.
Our culture is giving permission, even encouragement to explore outside the box. Every expression of sexual exploration and relationship choices has been normalized. The question is, Who is determining the norm?
Do you need help with discovering what will bring you joy, passion, honest communication and agreements, especially in the bedroom with yourself first, then with your partner? It is good when you can be in a relationships with someone who has Your best interest in their heart.
If you have jumped too fast and you’re in a mess, I can throw you a life line.
Please reach out. My hand is reaching for yours.
